| Woman can Help Man Gain His Erection
While men are concern, you will be surprise our partner, women, are more obsess than men do. Here's how women can help and participate together in gaining erection for her man.
Let It Go.
As just mentioned, if your man loses an erection during lovemaking, let it go. Unless he requests or indicates by his behavior that he wants you to perform fellatio or manually stimulate his penis to try to bring the erection back--don't. Focusing on his limp penis probably won't help and may hurt by intensifying his performance anxiety.
Love him.
Hold him. Kiss and stroke him, but ignore his penis. You don't have to prove your desirability by bringing his penis back to erotic life.
Ask for oral sex or manual stimulation yourself.
That will take the focus off his penis and give him the opportunity to feel like a good lover. Be responsive to his ministrations. A woman's arousal is very arousing to a man. It's possible that he'll regain his erection by losing himself in your excitement.
Don't be solicitous.
Show your understanding by not fussing over him. If he's feeling inadequate, don't tell him his lack of erection isn't important. A man who has been sexually humiliated doesn't want his wife saying, "Don't worry, darling, it doesn't matter."
Don't blame yourself.
And don't let him blame you. His erection problem may be physical or psychological. Even if it's rooted in relationship conflict, you are not the "cause" of the problem. Sex is a cooperative effort. So is relating. After an erectile failure, however, is not the right time to analyze the relationship.
Regain sexual desire lost to illness, disability, aging.
Some men and couples will stop making love in response to these situations. As illness can cause the sufferer to withdraw oneself away, if you are the healthy one, do not take your partner's withdrawal as personal rejection. Reach out and coax him back to you.
Give your partner and yourself a sensual treat everyday.
Take time to walk in the park and smell the flowers with him. Cook his favorite meal or filled your bedroom with soft music, silk pillow, crisp cotton bed sheets.
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